Adults Don't Like to "Get Back Up." They'd Rather Just Lie There.
I know... That absolutely sounded like a sexual reference.
And to be fair, I've done my fair share of "lying there." When I was 25, oh, man I'd fucking bend myself into a pretzel for a man. These days, I put so many miles on my body, I expect equal work for equal pleasure.
(Please laugh at my overt honesty. Sometimes it doesn't translate in text.)
But back to the headline of this blog-
I'm taking a coaching course right now on neuro transformational coaching. (This is the sort of coaching I do, but it never hurts to sharpen your sword and see what you can grab from different teachers.)
I'm in the early modules of the course so we're back to basics with a lot of the material, but the part about the stages of learning really inspired me to write, as I'm pretty sure everyone reading this is a grown-ass adult who has some sort of problem they believe I can help them solve.
This particular course is by Coach Sean Smith, and he mentioned how adults don't like to "get back up" when they fall down.
Kids don't give a fuck. They fall. They get up.
Adults, they'd rather lie there, like me in bed after a track workout.
Adults have shame about what they perceive to be "failing."
They get this weird "feeling" that they can't possibly do it again because their previous failure was so damn embarrassing.
...embarrassing to whom?
Your idea of embarrassment and what failure is is made up. It's based on your memories. Your memories are holding you hostage in your own life.
Your memories are wiring your unconscious programming to leave you feeling like a loser or a failure when you don't succeed for the first or 10th time at something. Your memories and everything you associate with them are making you think that you're this giant failure because you had a setback, or because you missed a week, a month, or even 6 months of something.
Your memory of the incomplete podcast/blog/piece of artwork/Instagram account/website/side hustle/diet you went on/time you joined the new gym and never went/time you told everyone you were going to lose 20 lbs and then didn't/time you were mortified at a college party over a guy/time you anything else that didn't work the way you thought it might is exactly why when you have a stagnancy in something you really want, you decide to lie there, rather than get back up.
Kids don't lie there. They get up and grow.
Adults lie there, looking pathetic.
Do you think people are going to say to you "you can't play with us" when you decide to train for a half marathon after not running for years?
Do you think anyone will ever say that to you about anything?
I mean, I did. I'm not immune to this shit.
When I decided to join the world of professional adults after being stagnant in my life since grad school, I thought everyone else was going to say "you can't play with us."
I thought they'd find me inexperienced, dumb, and without capability.
I thought they'd judge me for the way I lived my life for so many years. I thought people I went to school with would make fun of me... That's right. Just like a child.
But guess what? They didn't.
They respected me.
They helped me.
They encouraged me.
I was afraid that was not going to happen. There was no way of knowing for sure that it wouldn't. But I took a leap of faith, got back up, and asked if I could play.
And everyone said yes.
One of the women from my graduate school cohort actually reached out to me for advice, saying she was considering becoming a coach as well. I never would have imagined that would occur.
So, whatever it is, don't just lie there. Get back up. Whether it's been three days, three years, or a third of your damn life, get back up.
I hope you're having a great week.
Stay beautiful.
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