"Healthy People Are Obnoxious" (No, the People You're Looking at Aren't "Healthy" Either)
One of the bigger identity pieces I (and many people I've worked with) have had to overcome is getting past the inability to become "like" the people we can't stand.
In this episode, I introduce and explain the concept of "everything in service." It's a great reframe if you're struggling with your identity in relation to behavior change.
I used to tell the story “healthy people are obnoxious.”
It turns out, I was the obnoxious one.
I was obnoxious because the way I was acting was not in SERVICE to myself, but rather to SPITE myself.
Service > Spite
Are what we see as “healthy” people obnoxious? They can be. If they’re in spite, rather than service, absolutely. And then, are they really “healthy?”
So, for example, a person with a sculpted body… Are they obnoxious?
If they’re restricting themselves, not eating, in constant brain fog, obsessive about control/macros— they’re in spite rather than service. And that’s obnoxious.
THE SAME IS TRUE for a person who eats a pint of ice cream every night. That’s spite, rather than service.
Service to yourself and others is not obnoxious. It’s the path of love.
Don’t resist the information in this podcast.
You might be the obnoxious one.
Also, as promised in the episode, HERE IS THE LINK for FRIDAY POWER HOURS in May.
(https://getthefuckoff.com/friday-power-hours)
I'm going to be doing 90-minute power hours to help YOU work through that one teeeeeeeny tiny area you can't seem to get clarity on.
We'll meet on Zoom, deep dive into it, work it out, turn it inside out, up down and sideways, and you'll walk away from it with a whole new perspective.
You'll have an action plan for the following Monday, and a list of micro-steps you can proceed with throughout the following week. We'll exchange notes in Google Drive (just like I do with my long-term clients) and also schedule a 15-minute follow-up a week later to discuss your progress.
It's short. It's sweet. It's not obnoxious. 😜
One tiny area. Lots of exploration. Mental reframes. Sustainable action.
